Neville, many thanks for putting pictures to words..
Pakenham also wrote about Roberts’ wife, Lady Nora. She accompanied her husband on campaign, highly unusual at the time and something that even the British Queen had expressed serious objections against.
Pakenham (page 448) writes:
… “In and out of the hospitals, so the gossip went, Nora Robert’s interference was a menace. People spoke of “petticoat government” as though the Field Marshall’s baton was in Nora’s large knapsack (and large she was, towering over the little man). Was there any truth in these stories? Lord Kerry, Bob’s [Lord Roberts, efv] ADC, was asked this precise question by his mother, wife of the War Minister. He defended the Chief, while admitting that Bob’s recent [July/August 1900, efv] conversion to a tougher line against Boer women and children was probably due to Lady Roberts’ violent hostility towards them”
Most family photographs show Bobs the true Field Marshall either sitting or, when standing, appearing almost as tall as his buxom better half. (The photograph below comes from Lord and Lady Roberts’ personal photograph album. On the right Freddy, Roberts’ only son. Freddy died at Colenso in a doomed effort to save some guns).
I did, however, find one photograph on the internet which sets the happy couple to true scale. Perhaps the family snapshots were made with help of a skilled cobbler?
So, was “Bob’s” a hen-pecked man? His wife probably told him to deny the rumors or sleep on the couch for the rest of the week. Anyway, besides Pakenham’s mention, this matter seems to be shunned by his contemporary biographers; too much in awe of the hero and possibly fearful of a woman scorned.